This is a test of who you are and how you feel about yourself. There are 40 questions which will help determine where you are on the Power Meter.

I believe that all women are born full and radiant and over-flowing with passion and purpose.

As life goes on, some of the pure joy and innocence are taken away and replaced with vulnerability and control. Let’s see where your Power Meter is and look at what we can do to take back the power in your life!

*This was not based on a scientific study it is strictly used as a visual tool.

How full is yours?
 
 

1. Are you – or have you ever been – in a relationship where you said you wouldn’t tolerate something, but yet you do?  (I.e. Infidelity, lack of respect/trust, or verbal/mental/physical abuse.)

Yes –  I  love him, he doesn’t mean it. It’s how he grew up. I think he’s bi-polar
Yes – I said it won’t happen to me, but I have tolerated it just a little bit
Yes – But I give it right back to him/her
No – Someone tried, but I didn’t tolerate it and walked away. It is out of the question and unacceptable
NA – I haven’t experienced this in a relationship

 

2. Does your partner excessively question, text, email or talk to your friends about your whereabouts?

Yes – he says it’s for my protection and just wants to make sure I’m safe so he needs to know where I am
Yes – But it’s not as bad as it use to be
No – He/she tried, but I wouldn’t tolerate it
NA – I haven’t experienced this in a relationship

 

3.   Did you have close friends and relatives prior to your new relationship and now you have none or very few?

Yes – I don’t mind at. All we need is each other
Yes – It was gradual, but I let it happen
No – Not at all! Family and friendships are encouraged

 

4.   Do you feel like you’re always trying to make your partner happy?

Yes – shouldn’t everybody but I just can’t seem to do anything right
Sometimes – because he’s bi- polar, I try and keep the peace
We are respectful of each other

 

5.   How many times have you or your partner ended the relationship but you continue taking each other back?

Never – not yet anyway
Once or twice – typical relationship
4+ – More than I like but we love each other
6+ – I love him and can’t see myself with anyone else

 

6. Have you ever felt threatened or scared of your partner? (Past or present)

Yes – He has a hard time controlling his temper, but he doesn’t mean to scare me
Yes – He has scared me once or twice, but he hasn’t done it since
No – It is unacceptable, and I wouldn’t tolerate it

 

7. Have you ever been verbally assaulted by your partner and he/she tells you it’s your fault he/she acts this way.

Yes – It happens quite often. He is very emotional and he was raised to be that way
Yes – It’s no big deal because it doesn’t happen all the time
Yes – It happened once but I nipped it in the bud
No – He has never done that and  I won’t tolerate it

 

8. Have you ever heard these responses from your partner when you didn’t do something he/she wanted or you wanted to end the relationship? And you continued to stay. (Choose all that apply)

I’ll hurt you or I’ll hurt someone in your family
I'll kill myself or I’ll kill you and/or the kids
I know you just want to be with someone else
I knew you didn’t love me
If you loved me, you wouldn’t leave me
None of the above

 

9. Do you find that you submit to your partner under pressure?

Yes
No – I can hold my own

 

10. Would you know how to defend yourself if you were attacked?

Yes – I’m a trained professional
Yes – I’ve taken self defense classes
No – I am too scared but I would tell a friend
No – I’d call the police
No – I don’t think I’ll need it plus I have my brother(s) and/or dad
No – but I need to learn soon

 

11. How many times have you caught your boyfriend/ girlfriend cheating or         attempting to cheat, thought you’d never settle for it, but continued to      stay together?

Never – he’s committed
Once or Twice
Three, four or more
He's still cheating and I know it, but he really loves ME

 

12. Have you ever felt controlled in a relationship? (i.e who you see, where you go, what you do, etc)

Yes – we never do anything I want
No – we comprise
Sometimes, but we mostly do what he wants
NA

 

13. Do you continue to have friends and family in your life while you’re in a relationship? Are you still close with them?

Yes – friends and family are very important to me
No – He controls every move I make
Not really – He doesn’t like a lot of my friends and/or family, but it’s ok because I don’t need them
Not many – I use to, but he likes it when it’s just us

 

14. Do you consider yourself a confident and or positive person?

Yes – I’m both positive and confident
Yes – I’m probably more one than the other
No – I don’t consider myself to be either
No – But I am working to correct this

 

15.   Are you capable of making good decisions or do you often let others make decisions for you?

Yes – I’m capable of making great decisions
Yes – But I prefer that others make decisions for me
No – I am scared to make decisions so I need someone to make them for me

 

16.   Do you love yourself?

Yes – I‘ve always loved and embraced who I am
No – I don’t think I’m special
Maybe – I‘m not sure what love is

 

17. Do you normally – or have you – slept with guys on the first date?

Yes – It’s no big deal
Yes – Everyone has had a few “one night stands”
Yes – It happened once, but I was caught up in the moment
No – I have too much respect for myself

 

18. Do you believe that a “connection” can be made on the first date?

Yes  and I believe he feels the same way
No – mostly physical
Maybe – it’s been known to happen

 

19. Would you describe yourself as an overly sensitive person?

Yes - I’m extremely sensitive; I find it difficult to speak up for myself
Yes - I’m sensitive – but won’t let anyone take advantage of my  feelings
No – Some things bother me, but not often

 

20.  Do you have a regular exercise program that you maintain?

No – I don’t like to exercise
Kind of – I go to the gym, but I wouldn’t call it exercise
Yes – I exercise regularly and enjoy taking care of myself

 

21.  Do you find it difficult for you to speak up for yourself?

Yes – It’s better to just keep quiet and stay in the background
Yes – I find it difficult sometimes; I think of things after the fact
No – I know how to stand my ground

 

22.   Do you often make sure “your way is the right way” in a relationship?

Yes – I feel that I’m always right
Yes – Most of the time I am
No – There is usually room for compromise

 

23.   Are you being cyber bullied and allowing it to happen?

Yes – I haven’t told anyone
Yes – But I can handle it
No – I would tell someone
NA

 

24.   Are you a bully? (Be honest!)

Yes – I can be mean girl
Yes – I’ve been involved in the female mob mentality before
No – I’m not a bully, but I have bullied someone in the past and regretted it
No – I wouldn’t do such a thing; I was raised better than that

 

25.  Would you call yourself a people pleaser – always trying to make everyone happy?

Yes – that’s the kind of person I am
Sometimes – I don’t like confrontations so I give more than I should
No – Their happiness is their responsibility

 

26.   Do you feel that you are being manipulated in all of your relationships or are you the manipulator? (Significant other or friends)

Yes – I’m the master manipulator; I get what I want from everyone
Yes – I don’t like it, but I tend to give in to what everyone else wants
Both – We manipulate to each other
No – I don’t like when others do this to me and I refuse to manipulate them

 

27.   Are you someone who finds fault with yourself?

Yes – I wish I could change who I am
Yes – But people wouldn’t know it
No – I’m confident with who I am
Not really – I have faults but it doesn’t define me

 

28.   Are you looking for someone to take care of you?

Yes – Isn’t everyone?
Yes – I’m a traditional girl with traditional values
No  – I’m open to a relationship, but not someone to take care of me
No – I can take care of myself

 

29.   Do you let other girls/women intimidate you?

Yes – I worry about what they think or what they will do
No – I am confident in who I am
Sometimes – I always think others are better at things or prettier

 

30.   Are you constantly wishing you could change your physical features?

No – I like myself just the way I am
No – But if given the opportunity I would get plastic surgery
Yes – But circumstances or unforeseen medical problems caused this
Yes – I wish I looked different
Sometimes – I like myself but would love to change one thing

 

31.   Has a rocky past or present relationship allowed you to become bitter?

No – Best decision I ever made, I wish him well
Yes – I still struggle with it I wish we were together
Sometimes – I don’t won’t him/her but I hope they are miserable
NA

 

32.   Are you under 18 and not sexually active?

Yes – Not until marriage
Yes – I’m not ready, I’ll decide
Yes – But considering it, all of my friends have
No  – Under 18 and sexually active
No – Under 18 and doing other things but no sex
NA – 19 and older

 

33.   Are you someone who is not sexually active (SA) but being coerced into having sex?

Yes – I receive some pressure but I want him to be the first
Yes – It’s subtle - my boyfriend always brings it up
No – No pressure; he respects my decision
NA

 

34.   Are you the kind of person that just can’t be alone?

Yes – I can’t face this world by myself
Yes – I prefer to be in a relationship
Yes/No – Guys just seem to want me so I’m always dating
No – I can take it or leave it

 

35. Are you a person who thinks parents/friends/family just don’t understand your circumstances or are always meddling?

Yes – I prefer that they stay out of my life; I can make my own decisions and don’t need haters in my business
Yes – They ask too many questions so I tell them what they want to hear
Sometimes – They get on my nerves, but most of the time they are ok
No – My parents have my best interest in mind and want to help me become the best person I can be
NA

 

36.   Is it important for you to be popular or hang with the in crowd?

Yes – I like being popular – it’s where its at, duh?
Yes - I like being in the popular crowd – who doesn’t
No – I’m just fine, totally not necessary
Yes/No – if you’re not with the in crowd you feel left out
NA

 

37.  Are you someone who always uses your past or present circumstance to stop you from achieving? Think about it!

Yes – I have a tendency to do this
No - Neither defines me, its just what happened
Sometimes – I use it when necessary and I shouldn’t
NA

 

38. Are you an excuse queen? Be honest!

Yes - I’m guilty as charged, it’s a bad habit
Yes – I seem to always have a reason why I can’t do something
No – it only hurts me, I take full responsibility

 

39.  Are you drinking alcohol or doing drugs or both?

Yes – Over 18 and like to party
Yes – Under 18 and have experimented with one or the other or both
Yes – but only on occasion
Yes/No – been down that road before/clean and sober
No – never touch the stuff

 

40.  Check all of the feelings/emotions that you think describe you right now:

Peaceful Happy/Joyful Ashamed
Guilty Content Scared
Worried Loved Hopeful
Abused Miserable Lonely
Confident Energetic Overwhelmed