Chapter 2

Girls want to be in love so much they’ll accept someone into their life even though that someone may be a negative factor.  It’s been said that the rush is worth the price you pay.  Is it? Believe me, I understand hormones and young people and know it can be quite Complicated. I need you to trust dad when I say “since all of the boys and some the girls want to know If You Seek Amy (f.u.c.k me) (you) or if they can Smack That.  It’s always been tricky and usually starts with a Crush.  Let the Love Games begin.  
 
Big problem here: You shouldn’t like/love boys/men or value a relationship more than you love yourself.  As a matter of fact, you shouldn’t throw yourself into anything until you love yourself first.  This is true or I wouldn’t be writing this.  It could be a non - issue but you know some of your friends are walking around acting As If everything’s perfect. After all, it’s just Human Nature.
  
Young women always proclaim that they know how guys are and know What A Girl Wants.  Why aren’t you young women getting Everything You Want despite what you know?  I don’t have a clue but I have a pretty good guess.  I do know this, guys know just enough about you to be Dangerous.  We know girls love to be in love, crave intimacy, like shopping, talking on the phone/gossiping, getting pampered, being mean to other girls, usually hate their male friends Girlfriend(s), are insecure, or, wear too much makeup & Lip Gloss and love us(males) to a fault.  Don’t get it twisted; girls can be Dangerous too, just on a much smaller scale.
 
I’m sure he said ‘All I Do is Think of You or I Need Love ,’ and you lost your mind. We get it, It’s A Girl Thing - It’s like your IPod stuck on Replay.

Let’s talk about loving to a fault.  This is important to know from my perspective. Once you love us, we got you and you’re not going anywhere.  This is just my personal opinion, it doesn’t make me right.  Just listen and look around and decide for yourself.  History has proven many women don’t leave their current circumstance, they just accept the undisputed role of Ms. “Under Appreciated” even in the adolescent years. Regardless of your boundaries, values or morals, quite a number of you will remain steadfast. No matter what we say or do, you’re not going anywhere and that’s after you state which boundaries not to cross. 

The song, Love The Way You Lie, says it best.  Your objective: to remain solidified in your choice, no matter what the cost, even when it’s wrong.  Sad but true!  Try doing something for yourself once in awhile, it really is life changing and therapeutic.  Come on I Dare You To Move .

I’m talking about boundaries ranging from infidelity, abuse, controlling behavior, intellectual assault, among a number other things.  It’s quite apparent that when those boundaries are crossed and nothing actually takes place, your Power Meter will actually take a dive like the stock market on a bad day.  The loss of power and respect is tremendous on your part - you’ll need a stimulus package of self worth to get out the hole.  Your one day drop in value is his one day gain in power.  He now believes he has the Magic and I Can Transform Ya. (He can)

I need you to understand: You, yourself, can and do get in your own way.  Don’t Let Me Get Me; I’m my own worst enemy, how true for everyone! Girls can get so invested once they’re dating or infatuated with someone, their inner psychologist tries to turn Slim Shady into Superman.  I can’t say that I blame you.  It’s innate in all of us to think we can change someone to suit ourselves. The problem with that is we sometimes get lost in the shuffle and start to develop Concrete Shoes.

There are many Reasons why people make bad relationship choices.  It could possibly be a bad childhood, one parent household, two parent households with no love, absent/ inattentive fathers/ mothers, yourself, no interest in education, or, a contemporary society that’s got you dazed and confused, engaging in Risky Business. You probably have some friends who’ve called in or emailed the JohnJayandRich morning show in Tucson or Phoenix or one of their 5 other stations to get on ‘Second Date Update, Confession Wednesday or ‘War of The Roses’. These guys are a success for this very reason.

You know how Thursday’s, War of Roses segment goes…  Women call on a “fishing expedition” to bust their significant other’s for cheating.  The caller usually states that if “he’s cheating”, she’s leaving. When a bust is confirmed Johnjay, Rich, Kyle and the listeners offer thoughts and suggestions before asking the final question - “What are you going to do?”  You can hear she‘s obviously mad, upset, and rightfully so, but, you also hear in her voice and responses, she’s not going anywhere! 
Rich’s usual response after this is, “Well there you go, you got your answer.”  Maybe it’s that damn girl thing again.  I was young too, so I understand sometimes love comes around and Knock(s) You Down.  I heard love makes them Good Girls Go Bad but give me a break.  The song says “make a good girl go bad” not stupid.  Don’t be shot by Stupid Cupid or you’ll turn into a Hot Mess.

Since becoming a hot mess tends to happen more times than not, I’m joining the fight and will respond to your S.O.S.  Hmmm… nightfall is coming soon - I know how girls - Can’t Fight The Moonlight, so I’m on my way.   I want to be your Hero - you must Help Me because times have changed and under these conditions, heroes no longer have all the power.  So as backup, I’ll be bringing a few Men In Black .  In past conversations with females over the years, I’ve found some are behind enemy lines and can no longer decipher between a complete Stranger or True Friend.  Ladies, I’ve been to the Year 3000 and the current trend of the female path is not pretty.  Many in your generation are Caught Up in the excitement of it all and are in Over My Head (actually your head). 

This blind trust, or, love at all cost approach, isn’t working.  How much evidence do you need?  When he asks you on the phone:
To come over we need to talk;
Or
I’ll come over so we can talk;
He knows you can’t stand your ground. 

This Smooth Operator is banking on his irresistible charm to break down your emotional defense system.  He knows his odds are better in face to face emotional combat.  A ride home allows him time to come up with an answer. On arrival, he’ll likely grab your hand or touch your face to break down those defenses because it makes you feel Weak. 

The standard answer - It Wasn’t Me. 

Chapter 2 - Part 2 >>

This is a test of who you are and how you feel about yourself. There are 40 questions which will help determine where you are on the Power Meter. I believe that all women are born full and radiant and over-flowing with passion and purpose. As life goes on, some of the pure joy and innocence are taken away and replaced with vulnerability and control. Let’s see where your Power Meter is and look at what we can do to take back the power in your life! *This was not based on a scientific study it is strictly used as a visual tool.	How full is yours?